In this episode, Annie and Sharon sit down with content creator and fellow PK Daniel Oh to explore his journey from devoted pastor's kid to deconstructing his faith. Raised non-denominational, Daniel dedicated his teenage years to prayer, worship, and preparing for a future in ministry. But beneath his spiritual devotion was a deeper search for identity, belonging, and approval. Daniel chats about growing up under the weight of religious expectations, the challenges of questioning long-held beliefs, the complicated ties between faith and Korean culture, and what it means to rebuild a life that feels authentically your own after leaving church.
In this episode, Annie and Sharon sit down with content creator and fellow PK Daniel Oh to explore his journey from devoted pastor's kid to deconstructing his faith. Raised non-denominational, Daniel dedicated his teenage years to prayer, worship, and preparing for a future in ministry. But beneath his spiritual devotion was a deeper search for identity, belonging, and approval. Daniel chats about growing up under the weight of religious expectations, the challenges of questioning long-held beliefs, the complicated ties between faith and Korean culture, and what it means to rebuild a life that feels authentically your own after leaving church.
In this episode we cover:
00:00 - Intro: Daniel Oh and the perfect PK
01:01 - What it meant to be a perfect PK
01:51 - Martyr stories, "She Said Yes," and childhood fear
06:28 - Hiding non-Christian friends from pastor parents
08:45 - Setting up Daniel's interview
09:20 - Meet Daniel: Seoul, content creation, and coming back to yourself
11:21 - Daniel's PK childhood and family church life
16:59 - Middle school, guilt, and going all in on faith
21:32 - Homeschooling, fear of hell, and choosing a Christian path
25:34 - Worship, anointing, and chasing God's presence
29:05 - Father approval and the dream of Wheaton
37:29 - Wheaton, deconstruction, and the limits of certainty
45:03 - Annie and Sharon connect their own deconstruction stories
55:18 - Leaving Christianity and finding peace
01:03:46 - Daniel's final reflections on purpose and authenticity
01:05:03 - Host reflection: what would we do differently?
01:09:05 - Closing and next episode
Sharon Kwon, LCSW, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, writer, and founder of Bodhi Aware Therapy. Sharon specializes in working with Korean Americans who have struggled with overcoming religious trauma and spiritual abuse. She has worked in private and community mental health settings with immigrant families struggling with intergenerational trauma. Sharon’s writing has been published in Huff Post, SLATE Magazine, SELF Magazine, and Psychology Today. Sharon is an avid traveller and fan of all things “K”—dramas, food, soccer, etc. She is currently based in Los Angeles, CA. Get to know her on Instagram @talkwithsharon or via her website: www.sharonkwon.com.
Sion Lim (임시온) is a self-proclaimed “Koreanist” with a special passion to learn more about Korean Diaspora all over the world. She goes by her naturalized middle name, Annie. Her desire to connect with her K-side stems from her days as a graduate student at SOAS and as a former educator at Osaka Board of Education and Stanford University. Before becoming a podcaster, Annie's latest career adventure was with Silicon Valley corporations (fun!) ranging from Samsung to video games before the AI takeover. She currently resides in San Francisco with her husband and 3 kitties and would share more with you through her instagram, @sionannielim.
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